|Posted by Dayzed on February 1, 2015 at 12:05 PM|
SOME EXPECTATIONS TO CONSIDER IN SPONSORSHIP
3. Mutual honesty
4. Working the Steps
5. Meeting attendance
6. Sponsor availability
7. Frequency of contact
8. When and where to call
9. Sponsor replacement
Working the Steps
The Steps form the basis of every Twelve Step recovery program. Other program activities (meetings, sponsors, and Conference-approved literature) are designed to support us in working the Steps. Since our primary function as sponsors is to help our sponsees work the Steps, we should emphasize their importance from the beginning. My expectation for each of my sponsees is that he will be willing to work the Twelve Steps, and I ask for that commitment before agreeing to sponsor him.
Starting the Steps is a priority for program newcomers.
For newcomers to Alcoholics Anonymous, the suggested meeting attendance is ninety meetings in ninety days. Such a rigorous meeting schedule gives newcomers a firm grounding in program principles and establishes a new behavioral pattern based on acceptance of their alcoholism. It also represents a commitment to sobriety and to the work it requires. Ninety meetings in ninety days can also be recommended for other Twelve Step programs to help newcomers reduce their loneliness and sense of isolation. For these reasons and more, many of us have the “ninety-in-ninety” expectation for our sponsees and make that commitment a condition of sponsorship. I encourage my newcomer sponsees to include as many speaker meetings as possible in their ninety meetings. Speaker meetings help newcomers identify as alcoholics, addicts, or compulsive individuals . Speaker meetings also show newcomers that they can recover in a Twelve Step program and that they can be happy and successful. In speaker meetings, they get a full hour of experience, strength, and hope relating to recovery.
Speaker meetings are especially good for newcomers.