Blogs by Global Steps AA group members.
|Posted by Erin McV on October 6, 2017 at 11:15 PM||comments (0)|
As Bill Sees It
Imaginary Perfection, p. 181
When we early A.A.’s got our first glimmer of how spiritually prideful we could be, we coined this expression: “Don’t try to be a saint by Thursday!”
That old time admonition may look like another of those handy alibis that can excuse us from trying for our best. Yet a closer view reveals just the contrary. This is our A.A. way of warning against pride-blindness, and the imaginary perfections that we do not possess.
Only Step One, where we made the 100 per cent admission that we were powerless over alcohol, can be practiced with absolute perfection. The remaining eleven Steps state perfect ideals. They are goals toward which we look, and the measuring sticks by which we estimate our progress.
Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions
1. Grapevine, June 1961
2. 12 & 12, p. 68
|Posted by DOKTAJAN on September 12, 2017 at 5:15 PM||comments (0)|
There are numerous references to God and spirituality that appear in Alcoholic Anonymous literature, namely in the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Some meetings even take the religion thing a bit further and recite the Lord’s Prayer. But for those who aren’t Christians, this rigidity can be considered too intolerant and offensive, making it a turn off for a number of recovering alcoholics looking to stay sober.
The conflicting mindsets have created tension over the years, and AA has sought to alleviate it by adopting a more diluted approach: encouraging a personal definition of “God” as any higher power the person may choose. In essence, this broadened concept of a higher power could mean a doorknob, a piece of cheese, or even your pet cat.
Unsurprisingly, this approach has attracted more people to AA, and a number of non-12-Step groups sprang up in major cities that tend to offer a secular approach to recovery. Here, fellowships modify the Steps to their own purposes, while some don’t even read the Steps at all.
Proponents of this approach argue that vigorous application of the 12 Steps is not the only way to succeed in recovery. Other factors can play an even more important role, such as whether or not the person has a sponsor, whether or not a support system that include non-drinkers is in place, and whether or not he or she is committed to helping others through community service.
Surrendering the Reins
But for whatever side of the fence you stand on with this issue, it’s important to acknowledge the necessity of relinquishing control – giving up on the notion that we can do everything ourselves. We are merely passengers in the Game of Life; only through surrendering our ego to someone or something can we find peace.
What works for one person doesn’t always work for someone else, so take what you need from AA’s language and leave the rest. This ultimately puts you in the position of being able to form a treatment program that works for you. Remember: If it doesn’t apply, let it fly.
|Posted by Erin McV on September 8, 2017 at 10:15 PM||comments (0)|
Keep It Simple
One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears—by listening to them.
We hate being told what to think. We like to make up our own minds. It helps to talk things out with another person who, listens to us. Someone who care what we think.
We can give this respect to others. We can listen their point of view. We can try to understand them and care about what they think.
When we do this, others start to care what we think too. We share ideas. The ideas get a little more clear. They change a little. We get a little closer to agreement. We both feel good.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me know when to listen and when to talk today. Work for me and though me. Thanks.
Action for the Day: Today, I’ll look for chances to listen to others when I really want to talk. I’ll say, “Tell me more about that.” And I’ll listen.
|Posted by Erin McV on September 1, 2017 at 10:10 PM||comments (0)|
Pain And Progress, p. 3
“Years ago I used to commiserate with all people who suffered. Now I commiserate only with those who suffer in ignorance, who do not understand the purpose and ultimate utility of pain.”
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Someone once remarked that pain is the touchstone of spiritual progress. How heartily we A.A.’s can agree with him, for we know that the pains of alcoholism had to come before sobriety, and emotional turmoil before serenity.
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“Believe more deeply. Hold your face up to the Light, even though for the moment you do not see.”
1. Letter, 1950
2. 12 & 12, pp. 93-94
3. Letter, 1950
|Posted by Erin McV on August 25, 2017 at 10:40 PM||comments (0)|
As Bill Sees It
November 4, 2012
Is Happiness The Goal?, p. 306
“I don’t think happiness or unhappiness is the point. How do we meet the problems we face? How do we best learn from them and transmit what we have learned to others, if they would receive the knowledge?
“On my view, we of this world are pupils in a great school of life. It is intended that we try to grow, and that we try to help our fellow travelers to grow in the kind of love that makes no demands. In short, we try to move toward the image and likeness of God as we understand Him.
“When pain comes, we are expected to learn from it willingly, and help others to learn. When happiness comes, we accept it as a gift, and thank God for it.”
|Posted by Erin McV on July 28, 2017 at 10:35 PM||comments (0)|
THOSE WHO STILL SUFFER
Let us resist the proud assumption that since God has enabled us to do well in one area we are destined to be a channel of saving grace for everybody.
— A.A. COMES OF AGE, p. 232
A.A. groups exist to help alcoholics achieve sobriety. Large or small, firmly established or brand-new, speaker, discussion or study, each group has but one reason for being: to carry the message to the still-suffering alcoholic. The group exists so that the alcoholic can find a new way of life, a life abundant in happiness, joy, and freedom. To recover, most alcoholics need the support of a group of other alcoholics who share their experience, strength and hope. Thus my sobriety, and our program's survival, depend on my determination to put first things first.
|Posted by Tyson on July 24, 2017 at 1:40 PM||comments (0)|
Hi my name is Tyson and I just relapsed 10 days ago after 160 days of being sober. I learned from my slip and I am ready to go back at it. I have yet to have a sponser or work the steps. I am searching for a sponser now. Is there any one out there willing to be a temporary or possibly a permanant sponser?
|Posted by Erin McV on July 10, 2017 at 7:20 PM||comments (0)|
Keep It Simple
Everybody knows that when they're happy, than usually the people around them are happy.---George Harrison
Do we think we can't be happy until others are happy? Then nobody is happy. Our unhappy friends won't take our advice. They say,” Why should I do what you say? You are not happy either." And we answer, "I'll be okay when you're happy." We make them responsible for our happiness. What a mess!
We can only make one person happy---ourselves. How? By living as our Higher Power leads us. By working the Steps. By being grateful for the good things in our lives. By loving ourselves and others, just as we are.
And maybe when we're happy, our friends will learn from us. They can be happy too. But only our friends can make themselves happy.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, as I do my part in Your plan today, help me feel connected to You and to life.
Today's Action: Today I'll enjoy my happiness. I'll look for three ways to share it with others.
|Posted by Erin McV on July 8, 2017 at 11:25 AM||comments (0)|
Keep It Simple
Pain can't be avoided. It's as natural as joy. - Unknown
We got into a lot of trouble trying to avoid pain. We used alcohol and other drugs to avoid pain. We didn't want to accept pain as a fact of life.
We can't avoid pain, but now we have the program. The program teaches us how to talk about our pain. The program teaches how to turn over our pain to our Higher Power.
We don't have to be alone when we face pain. We have friends to go to. Before, when we hurt, we ran to alcohol or other drugs.
Now, when we hurt, we run to the comfort of our sponsor and our program friends.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me accept pain as part of life. Help me remember that You are always there to help me with my pain. I'm not alone.
Today's Action: Today, I'll list three painful events in my life. I'll talk with a friend about them.
|Posted by Erin McV on June 30, 2017 at 11:05 PM||comments (0)|
R.S.V.P. -- Yes or No?
Usually, we do not avoid a place where there is drinking -- if
we have a legitimate reason for being there. That includes
bars, night clubs, dances, receptions, weddings, even plain
You will note that we made an important qualification.
Therefore, ask yourself, "Have I any good social, business,
or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting
to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere?"
Then go or stay away, whichever seems better. But be sure
you are on solid spiritual ground before you start and that
your motive in going is thoroughly good. Do not think of
what you will get out of the occasion. Think of what you can
bring to it.
If you are shaky, you had better work with another alcoholic
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, PP. 101-102